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About Love

February 24, 2013 at 11:59pm
Dharmendra Dixit ne puchha Pyar kya Hai……. Let me try to distinguish it in a perspective… taking this approach because the word is used in different contexts and with different connotations…!!

Lets try to place it between affection and Compassion….

Affection => behaviour/ saying/ expression of the subject towards the object… obviously, the characteristics of object play an important role…

Love => Highest degree of Acceptance (landmark’s definition)…. Not a function of Object but a characteristic of subject… if someone is ‘Loving’…. he/ she will be loving towards all X, Y, Z….(If it is towards X and not towards Y… then its not love… its only affection)

Compassion => Subject does not find himself/ herself important… Only the object is important…. The subject identifies himself as the Object and in the world of the Object…

In the hierarchy of individual growth … one moves from affection (connection through words, compliments, gifts etc.) to love (Connection through heart, silence etc.) to compassion (experiencing oneness ….connection through soul)…

When someone is compassionate…. love automatically flows…..Similarly, when someone is “Being Loving”… affection automatically flows… … and vice-versa is not true…

Compassion has many dimensions …. love is just one of them…. and love is entirely subsumed in Compassion.

similarly, Love has many dimensions… and affection is just one of them…. however, all forms of affection are subsumed in Love

We can simply say that affection is a subset of Love, which itself is a sub-set of compassion…

I think…. most people are expressing affection …. when they feel and say that they love someone… Similarly, they are expecting affection… when they say that they want love… and when they say they are not loved… what they are saying is that nobody/ somebody is not expressing affection…

each one of is free to choose… => Be affectionate?… Be Loving?… Be compassionate?…

BEING COMPASSIONATE = BEING BOUNDARYLESS !!

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